Somatics for Couples BETA Course

12 months total

1 call per month (2 hours)

Homeplay assignments

* For partnerships, loverships, friendships and singles

 Weaving Somatics into our Relationship means cultivating an environment for the body of us to thrive 

Somatics for Relationships — a 12-Month Beta Journey (an eco-somatic lens)

THE WORLD RIGHT NOW 

We're living through an epidemic of loneliness.

People are exhausted by dating. Couples are drifting apart without knowing why. Singles are showing up to every new relationship carrying the same unresolved patterns, wondering why nothing seems to stick.

Here's what I keep coming back to: we don't struggle in relationships because we haven't found the right person. We struggle because no one ever taught us how to be with ourselves while we're with someone else.

We've become so self-focused, so boundaried, so high-achieving in our personal development and yet somehow, the one place that requires us to be most fully human keeps slipping through our fingers.

“Relationships are simply here to show us who we are. We see ourselves so intimately because of another body and that's the whole point.” 

THE MISSING PIECE 

No one taught us the skills of actual relating.

We inherited models of relationship from our parents, from culture, from the era we grew up in and these are models that worked at one point. We have evolved.

And now we're here, trying to love and be loved in a world that's moved beyond those templates without offering us anything new.

What's missing isn't willpower or the right partner or more self-work. What's missing is the felt, embodied skill of being present with yourself while you're present with another.

Can you feel your own breath while you're listening to someone you love? Can you locate your own sensation in the middle of conflict? Can you stay in the discomfort long enough for something new to emerge rather than shutting it down, manufacturing intensity, or disappearing into your partner's experience?

This is somatic intelligence. And it changes everything.

“The body keeps a more honest ledger than the mind.” 

HOW THIS WORKS 

Your relationship is a living body.

And it needs what all bodies need.

The eco-somatic approach I bring to this work starts with a simple premise: a relationship isn't just a dynamic between two people - it's an environment. A living system with its own breath, its own cycles, its own need to rest, to restore, and to be witnessed.

Like any body, your relationship needs to turn the light switch off sometimes. To move through a void. To collapse before it can expand. When we don't have the skills to stay in those fallow periods, we fill them with drama, with fixing, with urgency or anything to feel something other than the discomfort of real intimacy.

What somatic practice offers isn't a technique to fix your problems. It's a way of tending. Of learning to stay long enough for the new story to unfold in you, between you, as a body of two.

WHAT WE'LL MOVE THROUGH 

Themes we'll weave across 12 months:

• Building somatic awareness within the relationship
•  Holding yourself while holding another: locating your felt experience while tending to theirs
• Communication beyond words
•  Projection, reflection, and the gift of being truly seen
•  Creating conditions for creative, generative relating beyond codependency and power dynamics
•  Impulse, desire, and how the body leads us toward what we actually need
•  Staying through collapse/void and recognising the nutrients that live in fallow seasons
• Holding differentiation
• Relational presence
• and so much more....

WHO THIS IS FOR 

This is for you if…

•  You're in a relationship and feel like you keep hitting the same walls, no matter how much work you do.
•  You're single and would like to explore new ways of communication with someone new.
•  You're exhausted by the performance of modern relating and you're ready to try something that actually lives in the body.
•  You've done talk therapy, you've read the books, you understand your attachment style.... and something is still missing.
•  You're in any relational configuration  coupled, polyamorous, solo, navigating divorce or a new beginning. All of it belongs here.

You don't need to be in crisis to join. You need to be curious. 

THE OFFER 

12 months. 2 hours. Once a month.

$400 for the full journey.

This is a beta course — which means you’re coming in at the beginning, when the container is intimate, the price is low, and your experience will shape what this becomes.

There are no prerequisite practices, no homework assigned (just new ways to play), no way to do this wrong. Show up as you are. Bring your real relationship  or your real longing for one. That is enough.

A WORD FROM LOLLY 

This work is teaching me as much as anything I’ve ever facilitated.

I’ve been doing this work long enough to know that I can’t offer what I haven’t lived. 

I've been working with couples for over 8 years and right now, something is different about our sessions.

I began doing case studies this year to get really clear on what's uncovering between us and collectively right now.

It's no secret that we are being challenged and ready for new ways.

I can't wait to show you what I'm discovering.

What I have to offer you is a way into the relational field intelligence. A way of meeting yourself through the mirror of relationship, with enough skill and enough tenderness that you don’t have to keep running from what’s reflected.

Come because some part of you already knows the body holds the answer.

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$400 · 12 months · 2 hours once a month · All welcome 

InnerLoom · innerloom@gmail.com